A few days ago, i was talking to friend i hadn't spoken to in a long time. We were still friends on facebook but somehow just got disconnected. We caught up on things and then I complimented her on how glamorous she has become and she complimented me on my natural hair growth. She has been following my hair journey and like my progress ( she has long natural hair too). This came as a shock to me. First of all I am super shy to show my hair. Every time I post a picture of it I think long and hard; and wether it is really worth it. What am I trying to prove? Never had i thought that my pictures would inspirw anyone, especially when i think of all the amazing hair journeys around the world.
Then she proceeded by asking hair tips. The funny thing is that I don't even have a "hair care regimen". I regularly deep condition, that I say. Plus I try so many hair products it was actually hard to explain the process to. I never thought of it before since i thought no one would be interested. I tried to remember what i do consistently and showed the products i was using at the moment. It felt great to be able to help.
The following week an aunt insisted I showed her the hair products that were making my hair look so thick. I did. Again i was sirprised. I had been using the line for 2 months only now but she would not listen to anything else, just wanted the same products :).
A few days later, at work, a lady greeted me with a big smile and said hello hard working lady.
It felt as if all of these people "conspired" to prove to me that I was actually ok, despite the way I had been feeling about myself fpr quite some time.
All of this reminded me that most times, we are doing just fine. So many times we put pressure on ourselves. I guess the pressure is good because it turns us into better people but sometimes we just need to pause and breathe. We hardly believe it but we are doing fine and inspiring so many people!
This does not mean we have to stop pushing and fighting for our dreams, not at all. It's just an amazing reminder that things are working. Despite still not having everything I desire I am growing and inspiring other people. That's amazing.
There is so much focus on the destination when in fact there is so much fun on the journey!
The statement "enjoy the journey" should be taken more seriously.
I learned that every once in a while we need to stop, take a deep breath, tap ourselves on the shoulder, count our blessings ( they are so many!!!) , look back to how far we have come before we can carry on.
